Could the answer be that our essence, our soul, that which we knew so well on day one sheds some of its’ knowing as life unfolds? Even as toddlers, we experience small tears in our confidence, inquisitiveness, creativity, righteousness, humility, and essence. We continue to experience these tears as we grow, causing us to forget or disconnect with who we really are. The initial knowing, however, never actually goes away and we experience the need deep inside us to reconnect with the way we were on our birth day.
We may look for answers in books, from teachers, through religion and spiritual ways of life, not knowing the answers are always inside us waiting to be rediscovered. We talk of reinventing ourselves, reclaiming our confidence, our autonomy, or our sense of humor. What we are really trying to do is to reconnect with that wholeness we were born into.
So what does this have to do with your work as a transformational coach? Our experience has taught us that our clients almost always have the answers they seek. Where do those answers come from? Have they always been there? Since day one? Are the answers hidden or simply covered in the muck and mire of everyday life?
Transformational coaches help to peel back the layers of life’s interventions so that their clients can see the truth about who they really are. Transformational coaches strive to bring their clients to Day Two, the day the client finds out why there was a Day One.
A client reaches out to a coach because they want help with something in their life. We have found that the reason a client seeks our help may have nothing to do with what they ultimately discover about themselves during the course of our coaching. As transformational coaches we watch for opportunities to address the tears that separate our clients from who they are today to whom they were on day one.
This deep seated knowing never goes away and hints of it show up repeatedly in coaching sessions. Could it be that every ah-ha moment, or every time a client says, “I just have a feeling I should …” is a moment of remembering? Is the client reconnecting with their wholeness? These are the moments the transformational coach lives for. The opportunity to seize that momentary realization and hold on to it for the client so that it can be examined and nurtured, and the tear mended.
We suggest you set aside time to reflect on the possibility that this scenario has validity. Go to your favorite spot, a window with a view you love, a spot in nature, an image in your mind. Use your mediation skills and ask these questions:
- Who was I on the day I was born?
- Do I feel that same wholeness today?
- What have I uncovered about that newborn soul that has led me to understand my life’s purpose?
Don’t forget to keep your journal nearby and record your thoughts as you reflect.
Thanks for reading! More to come this month on ways to connect with your wholeness on Day 1.
